ENERGY PROFILE FOR NOVEMBER

TRUSTING ONESELF


                             


Do you Trust yourself?  Before you answer, consider and answer the following:

 

  • did your parent(s) trust you as a child?
  • did your parent(s) keep their word to you (did they do what they said they would do when they said they would do it or did they often forget?)
  • did you know you could tell your parent(s) a secret and they would not tell anyone?
  • were you afraid to tell the truth to a parent(s)?
  • did you witness your parent(s) trusting themselves in a crisis or a difficult situation or did you experience drama, anger, blaming, addictions, excessive sleeping or shopping?
  • did your parent(s) have a hard time making decisions because they were afraid of making the wrong decision?
  • did your parent(s) trust each other?
  • did your parent(s) listen to others for advise more than to their intuition?
  • did you have a parent(s) tell you to put your coat on even when you said you weren't cold?
  • did you have a parent(s) who discounted you for being hungry shortly after dinner (and you ate your meal)?
  • did you have a parent(s) tell you that you made them angry or sad?
  • did you have a parent(s) tell you that they couldn't trust you?
  
All of the above questions and answers deal with an aspect of trust and were damaging to our development and understanding of the dynamic of Trust.  Depending on how your parent(s) and significant others interacted with you formed your subconscious impression of Trust and this impression is still active within you today. 

Perhaps trusting others at a young age was painful and disappointing. Or maybe it was a warm and healthy experience.  Take a moment to ponder your overall childhood experiences in this regard. 

Trusting others is a basic need. If it was not met in childhood, we step into adult life looking for and needing someone to trust.  The Catch 22 is that if we did not have a good role model as a child, we will not know what the energy structure of trust looks or feels like.  It's like searching for some- thing you haven't a clue what it is.  The result is that usually we try to trust those who are not trustworthy.  Why?

The reason we attempt to trust people who are not trustworthy is
twofold.  First, we are trying to 'get it right' because as a child we weren't able to trust so we are now going to do it right!  And secondly, because we really do not know what it looks like energetically (the energy structure of
trust) we will be drawn to that which we do know which is pseudo-trust.

When we do not understand the dynamic of Trust we tend to do the following:

  1. feel taken advantage of by others
  2. feel indecisive about making decisions in our life
  3. dislike being 'new' at anything
  4. try to make things happen rather than let them play out
  5. second guess what is going to happen
  6. go to others for answers rather than going within
  7. not keep our word or time commitments with others or ourself
  8. avoid taking risks and stay in out-dated jobs, habits and relationships
  9. shut down when we've been hurt
  10. expect others to betray us
  11. be fearful of committing to others and our own life
  12. not listen to our gut feelings
  13. resist change
  14. justify why our actions are not trustworthy
  15. experience fear, anxiety and doubt a lot

Trust is an inside job.  It is easy to know the concept mentally but that is not the same as owning it through personal experience. When I work with this dynamic with a client, I ascertain through an assessment whether they are staying mental with the concept, whether they 'want' to do the concept but don't know how, whether they are afraid (due to painful associations) of the dynamic or whether they are actually living the energy of the dynamic within themselves.  Which one are you?

Everything you do, say, think, feel, decide and so on involves Trusting yourself.  A main ingredient of self-trust is to know how to listen to yourself, your gut feelings, your intuition and to honor what you hear.
Do you do this?

If you have a difficult time going within and listening and/or honoring what you hear, meditate on the above energy picture.  It provides your subconscious mind with information on how to listen from your Heart and Soul. 

To be able to listen to yourself there needs to be a belief in and acceptance of self.  Would you trust someone you don't believe in or accept?  In fact,
take a moment to list the characteristics of someone you would trust. These same characteristics you need to have with yourself for YOU to trust YOU.....yes, that is right! 

Can you trust yourself?  What do you do that would make you a little hesitant to do so?  Make a decision to one at a time, cease doing these
things.   Botom line, if you can't trust yourself, you have no one you can trust.  To trust others, you need to trust yourself FIRST.

The information encoded in the above energy schematic shows you the many dynamics involved in learning to trust yourself.  Be patient. Remember that trust is not something you can think or see...it is an energy you sense and feel.

If you have questions, e-mail me or make an appointment for a phone
or in person session.   I would love to assist you.